Monday, November 11, 2019

Dress up days

Dress Up Days

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"Many times students don't want to dress up out of embarrassment or lack of school spirit. Seeing my teachers dress up makes me want to participate and I know won't be embarrassed because they are participating right along side me." - - student

"Yes, we look up to our teachers and expect a level of professionalism but it is important to be reminded sometimes that they are regular people too" - - student

As an educator I try to stay up on current trends and happenings in the world of education across the country which leads me to joining several social media groups for teachers and administrators. On one such group an administrator posed the question as to whether or not teachers and/or principals should participate in school spirit dress up days. I replied that my personal belief is that yes, indeed they should participate. If they want students to have fun, enjoy the days, and build positive relationships at the same time, then model the behavior you want to see in your school by dressing up, getting others involved and just to be on the safe side, keep a change of business attire in your closet in case you have a parent meeting or other item that needs your attention.

When I first started my education career I was in school that frowned upon dressing up with the students on spirit days. I noticed that some of the veteran teachers still dressed up and appeared to be having a lot of fun. I asked one of the few teachers who participated why they dressed up when the administration had made it clear to us that though it was not against policy, it was not preferred. This teacher said they were focused more on people than on policies and they learned how valuable it is to make those connections with his students. I took that message to heart and began participating in every dress up since my first year. And when I do, I don't mess around.

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Saturday, October 5, 2019

The Scarlet Letter and Understanding Love

Let me start by saying, "this is not my typical educational blog post."

Today in class, while reading The Scarlet Letter, my students became very heated over the fact that little Pearl was punished nearly equal to her mother by standing with Hester on pillory, though she was guiltless of any wrongdoing. She was punished for being a kid.
This discussion led to the arguments of whether it was romantic and loving for Hester to stay in the town that her beloved and father of her child was residing or was it selfish of her not to put her child first. 
In trying to make the argument that the case of Hester and Arthur Dimmesdale was quite different from mine, but I always put my spouse first. This clearly was not met with an ecstatic response from my students. Now granted, Dimmesdale and Hester were not married, they did not have a traditional relationship by any stretch of the imagination, and we do not currently live in a theocracy as was present in early Puritan Massachusetts. Rather than get into a discussion that drifted from the content and state standards I agreed to continue the topic as blog post. So this blog post is based on questions from my students and a true desire to understand why my incredible wife, Melissa, and I conduct our marriage the way we do and why we have found the success we have as a couple.

First, marriage is something we work at every single day and we are incredibly proud of that work. It is special, extraordinary, and we want it to last forever so we treat our marriage the greatest and most precious item we posses, because it is. 

Melissa and I have been together for over 21 years (That is more than half of her life. May 7th of 2020 will mark being with her longer than I was without her). Like many our age, our lives are consumed by the logistical juggling act of running a household with three daughters, managing our teaching careers (yes, we are both teachers), keeping our numerous cats and dogs happy and well, and planning lessons and caring for all students who enter our classrooms. Oh!...and then there are the extra-curricular activities we lead like students council, tennis, directing numerous theatrical productions a year, all while making sure we schedule time for each other. Indeed, our lives are impossibly busy. But at the top of all our priorities, we list loving our kids and right above that is our marriage. 

When Melissa and I were dating and began talking of marriage we decided then and there that our marriage and our faith would provide the foundation for everything that we build together. Long before we made our vows over the marriage alter we made a vow to each other over a chicken finger basket at the Dairy Queen. We would always put each other first. Over career, over parents, over family, and yes, even over our kids. Now please, do not get this statement wrong or interpret it as anything other than what it is. We were not saying we would put our marriage first at the expense of our other obligations, but rather we are prioritizing what is most important so we can make the other priorities in our lives better because of our love for each other.

To put it simply; the greatest gift I can give my daughters is for them to see a husband who loves his wife and puts her first. I want them to find a man who loves them in the same way.

If I were not to put my wife first then it becomes easy for anything else to fill that spot. If my kids are first then what happens they when all grow up and move out? If I have put my wife lower on the list during that time, then suddenly try to move her back to the top of my priority list I imagine it would not be met with the greatest reception. 

If I put work, my career, or anything else as my top priority then what was the point of getting married in the first place? I want to be with Melissa forever. If I put my career first then my spouse becomes little more than a roommate.

And even more damaging, if I do not put my wife first then that leaves the door open for another woman to come along and fill that spot. By keeping my wife at the top of my priority list it keeps my romantic heart solely dedicated to her and no one else. 

My wife is truly the best part of me and I will always treat and love her in a manner to reflect that fact.

Monday, September 16, 2019

Are We Really Preparing Them for the "Real World"?

So often in schools today we claim that teachers are doing their best to prepare students for the real world yet we still require them to sit in assigned seats and raise their hand when they want to use the bathroom. Are we really preparing them for the real world? Where else in their lives are they going to have to have assigned seating (other than a plane or a concert) and when in the world are they ever going to have to actually raise their hand to use the bathroom?

Sunday, September 15, 2019

Don't Yell at the Flowers


I have never been accused of having a green thumb. Even my fake plants died because I forgot to pretend to water them. Though I may not be the greatest horticulturalist on the block, I am rather skilled in metaphors.
     Allow me to share one such example I have learned about flowering plants. Sometimes when caring for a plant you give it the recommended amount of sunlight; the right amount of food, and precise measurements of water, and still the flower does not bloom. You change those variables and still the flower fails to bloom. Your expectations remain high, your phyto-maintenance skills are at their finest, and yet this flower, of which you care for so deeply, remains in its dormant state. It is in this moment that you must look at the environment in which the flower is planted. You must change the very surroundings it lies in. Replace the soil, change it out for a more fertile environment. You must change the very thing that is holding it back. Changing the climate of the flower will finally allow it bloom, just as we always desired it would.           
     Now let me tell something of which I am will not get a flower to bloom by blaming the flower for its own failure or worse, yelling at the plant!

Studies have been proven that this method does not work. The same goes for our students. We cannot be quick to blame them for not reaching their potential as quickly as we desire. Sometimes we give them all we can, we foster, we support, we encourage, and we give our time and our all and still our students may not bloom. It is at these moments where we must look at the educational environment we have created and look to how we may need to change the climate they are in to give them best environment they can get and allow them to bloom. It may not be easy, the results are truly beautiful.